101 Important Questions To Ask Yourself in Life
“The key to wisdom is knowing all the right questions.” – John Simone
What questions do you ask yourself every day?
Believe it or not, the kind of questions you ask determine the kind
of life you lead. That’s because your questions trigger its own set of
answers, which lead to certain emotions, which then lead to certain
actions (or inactions), followed by results. If you ask yourself
limiting questions, you’ll get limited results. If you ask yourself
mind-opening, forwarding questions, you’ll gain a lot more out of them.
Some people like to ask questions like “Why am I so unlucky?”, “What
if I had done this earlier?” and “Why am I always in such a situation?”.
Because these questions are backward looking, the answers you get with
them are naturally disempowering. On the other hand, questions like
“What can I learn from this experience?”, “What can I do differently
move forward?” and “What am I grateful for?” are empowering. They
provoke you and get you thinking, putting you on the path to a better
life.
If you’re someone who normally doesn’t self-reflect, you might be
stumped by questions. However, this is perfectly normal. I believe questions are a key to self-awareness and personal
growth. In my 1-1 coaching sessions, I enable my clients to discover the
answers to their goals/questions by asking them the right questions.
It’d be easy if I just tell my coachees what they “should” do and what
they “should not” do. But that’s not the point. It’s about empowering my
clients to discover themselves through asking the right guiding
questions, catered to their situation and their profiles. The right
questions will help them untangle the blockages in them and connect with their inner self.
It doesn’t matter if you get stumped in the beginning, or if you
don’t know the answers to the questions at first. Our minds are
boundless. Just because you don’t get an answer immediately, it doesn’t
mean there are no answers. The answers are there – it’s just that your
mind is too foggy since you’ve not consulted it before. The more you
ask, the clearer your mind will be, and the more ready you’ll be to
receive the answers.
Below is a full set of self-reflection questions I’ve come up to help
you live your best life. While the article says 101 questions, there
are more than that, and I’ll continue to add on over time as I come
across new ones. Some of these questions are questions which I ask my
1-1 clients, to uncover the real them. The questions will help you focus
on what’s important to you, and what you want. They are not meant to be
answered all at one shot – they are to be thought over again and again,
as part of your growth journey. Pick out a few questions to reflect on
today, then bookmark and check back a week later to think over the
others. Check back regularly to reflect on the questions.
Remember, there is no 1 final answer. It’s a continuous discovery
process. Your answers to the questions today will be different from your
questions next month, 3 months, 1 year, 3 years down the road. Add it
to your weekly review sessions. This is an important article for your growth journey.
Here they are:
- Who are you?
- What are you passionate about?
- What are the achievements you are most proud of?
- What are you most grateful for in life?
- What are the most important things to you in life?
- How would you describe yourself?
- What are your values? What do you represent? What do you want to embody? (On Day 9 of Live a Better Life in 30 Days, we work together to discover your values.)
- Do you love yourself?
- … Why or Why not?
- How can you love yourself more today?
- What is your ideal self? What does it mean to be your highest self?
- Look at your life now. Are you living the life of your dreams?
- If you have one year left to live, what would you do?
- If you have one month left to live, what would you do?
- If you have one week left to live, what would you do?
- If you have one day left to live, what would you do?
- If you have an hour left to live, what would you do?
- If you have one minute left to live, what would you do?
- What would you do today if there is no more tomorrow?
- What are the biggest things you’ve learned in life to date?
- What advice would you give to yourself 3 years ago?
- If you are yourself 1 year from the future, how would you advise the you now? (On Day 22 of 30DLBL, we travel to the future to give advice to the us today.)
- Is there something you’re still holding on to? Is it time to let it go?
- What are you busy with today? Will this matter 1 year from now? 3 years? 5 years?
- What are your Quadrant 2 tasks?
- What opportunities are you looking for?
- How can you create these opportunities?
- What are your biggest goals and dreams?
- What’s stopping you from pursuing them? …Why? How can you overcome them?
- If you are to do something for free for the rest of your life, what would you want to do?
- What would you do if you cannot fail; if there are no limitations in money, resources, time or networks?
- What do you want to achieve 1 year from now?
- … 3 years?
- … 5 years?
- … 10 years?
- How important are these goals to you?
- What if these goals are doubled? Tripled? Magnified by 10? How would you feel? Would you prefer to achieve these or your previous goals?
- Who are the people who have achieved similar goals? … What can you learn from them?
- Are you putting any parts of your life on hold? … Why?
- What’s the top priority in your life right now?
- What are you doing about it?
- If you were to die tomorrow, what would be your biggest regret? What can you do now to make sure that doesn’t happen?
- For every experience you get: What are the biggest things you have learned?
- How can you do this better the next time?
- If you had 1 million dollars, what would you do with it?
- Do you love your job?
- What is your ideal career?
- How can you start creating your ideal career starting today?
- What is your ideal diet?
- What do you need to do to achieve your ideal diet?
- What is your ideal home like?
- What do you need to do to achieve your ideal home?
- What is your ideal physical look?
- What do you need to do to achieve your ideal physical look?
- What is your ideal life?
- What can you do to start living your ideal life?
- What would you want to say to yourself 1 year in the future?
- … 3 years?
- … 5 years?
- … 10 years?
- What do you fear most in life?
- Is there anything you are running away from?
- Are you settling for less than what you are worth? … Why?
- What is your inner dialogue like?
- What limiting beliefs are you holding on to?
- Are they helping you achieve your goals?
- If not, is it time to let them go?
- What empowering beliefs can you take on to help you achieve your goals?
- What bad habits do you want to break?
- What good habits do you want to cultivate?
- What are the biggest actions you can take now to create the biggest results in your life?
- Where are you living right now – the past, future or present?
- Are you living your life to the fullest right now?
- What is the meaning of life?
- What is your purpose in life? Why do you exist? What is your mission?
- How can you make your life more meaningful, starting today?
- What drives you?
- What are the times you are most inspired, most motivated, most charged up?
- What did you do during those times? How can you do more of that starting today?
- How can you change someone’s life for the better today?
- Who are the 5 people you spend the most time with?
- Are these people enabling you or holding you back?
- What qualities do you want to embody? (Refer to Q7: Values and Q11: Ideal Self) Where can you meet people who embody these qualities?
- Who inspire you the most?
- How can you be like them?
- What is your ideal life partner like?
- Where can you find him/her?
- How can you get to know him/her?
- Are you afraid of letting others get close to you?
- … Why?
- Who is/are the most important person(s) to you in the world?
- Are you giving them the attention you want to give?
- How can you spend more time with them starting today?
- What kind of person do you enjoy spending time with?
- How can you be this person to others?
- Who do you want to be like in 1 year?
- … 3 years?
- … 5 years?
- … 10 years?
- Who are your mentors in life? (formal or informal)
- What is one thing you’re going to do differently after reading this article?
